Stop “Shoulding” On Thyself

By |January 16th, 2014|

Shoulding on thyself involves the act of trying to motivate yourself using the word: should.  The reality is that using ‘shoulds’ as a motivating force isn’t very motivating.

Shoulds limit you. They keep your world small and keep you stuck firmly in your comfort zone. Shoulds are a demotivating and disempowering force. They dim your light and your ability to wholeheartedly contribute, feel soul-satisfied and flourish.

Sometimes we give our inner critic carte blanche and let it have a field day telling us what we should do, think or feel. Other times we give too much credence to the people in our […]

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Break It Down

By |January 15th, 2014|

Got a goal that you want to achieve or an intention you want to manifest? If so, you’ll want to have a game plan for the actions you’ll take that will help to make that goal or intention a reality. Don’t worry, you don’t need to know all of the action steps up front, you just need to figure out a good starting place.

Begin by identifying one or two small actions that you’ll commit to taking starting on Day 1. That will get you started moving forward.

There are 3 keys to effectively choosing actions: Break It Down, Get Clear on […]

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Intentions, Goals & Affirmations

By |January 14th, 2014|

Once you’ve identified your top three priorities, take a few moments to map them out and set an overarching goal, intention statement or affirmation for each focus area. What is it that you would like to accomplish or see change within each major priority area?

Goal Statements

Goal statements utilize straightforward language and are frequently written in the future tense. (e.g. “I will get a new job in 2012.”) It is a common practice, especially in the business world, to write S.M.A.R.T goals. S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. (e.g. “I will make 5 new connections each month, increasing my […]

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Remember Yourself!

By |January 13th, 2014|

When you are looking at your life, work, and career priorities, one of the most important things is to make sure you are also taking into account your own personal needs, growth and well-being. The Self Role is all about caring for your body, mind and spirit.

This is a critical role but often the most neglected role, especially for women who tend to put caring for and connecting with others before caring for self. It is vitally important to consider yourself a priority in your own life and to balance your career, work and/or business priorities with your personal life […]

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Balancing Your Roles

By |January 10th, 2014|

Another great way to think about narrowing your focus is to think in terms of balancing the roles you play in life. Throughout our adult years, women typically distribute their time across a combination of 7 primary roles: Self, Mother, Daughter, Couple, Friend, Work and Community. Notice that work is just one of the 7 roles.

The nature of our roles and the amount of time we devote to our roles changes and shifts as we go through life. We are not necessarily active in all 7 roles at all times. Different decades (e.g. 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, etc.) and personal and […]

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Narrow Your Focus

By |January 9th, 2014|

After devoting some time to the practice of envisioning…it’s time to start narrowing your focus by identifying the areas of your life and work that are a priority for you. These are not the areas of your life that others are telling you that you “should” focus on, but instead these are the areas of your life and work that YOU want to focus your attention and energy on in 2014.

Take a moment to think about the areas of your life that are important to you. For example, are you at a point in your life where you want to […]

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Journey vs. Destination

By |January 8th, 2014|

It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” — Ursula K. LeGuin

As we start the new year and begin to focus on new goals, intentions and resolutions…it is important to keep in mind that the journey is as important (if not more) than the destination.

Our society tends to focus on the destination and not the journey. We believe that when we reach the end-point (e.g. our goal), we will be rewarded for our hard work with everything that has “been missing” in our lives. And so, we focus on […]

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Magic Wand

By |January 7th, 2014|

Not sure what you want your vision to look like? Are you getting stuck on the particulars? Are you dwelling in doubt instead of possibilities? Try this exercise…

If you had a magic wand…

  • what would you wish for in your life?
  • what would you wish for in your business?
  • what would you wish for in your career/work?
  • what changes would you want to see?
  • how would you use the magic wand to make a difference in your life and/or a difference in the lives of others and/or a difference in the world?
  • what would shift as a result of you waving the magic wand?
  • what would transform?
  • what would […]
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Dwelling In Possibilities

By |January 6th, 2014|

“Believe there are no limits but the sky.” — Cervantes

One of the keys to effective envisioning is the ability to dwell in possibilities. This requires us to contemplate possibilities instead of contemplating impossibilities.

Unfortunately, when we typically think about our dreams and goals for the future, we tend to focus on why we think that these things “can’t happen,” “won’t work” or “aren’t possible.” This sort of limited thinking dampens our creativity and clouds our vision with doubt and unnecessary limitations.

Try shifting your thinking to:

  • Be open minded instead of close minded
  • Envision success and not failure
  • Focus on what you do want instead of […]
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For The Sake of What?

By |January 3rd, 2014|

When I’m working with my clients and helping them to think about their vision…I always ask a key question:

“For the sake of what?”

For example:

  • You say that you want to take on a new senior leadership role and make a career change…for the sake of what?
  • You say that you want to build a successful practice…for the sake of what?
  • You say that you want to do a better job of practicing self-care…for the sake of what?
  • You say that you want to build a stronger relationship with your adult child who is away at college…for the sake of what?

The reason for asking these […]

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